Polygamy is a Choice

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By Ogiri John Ogiri.

Husband scarcity in Nigeria seems to have heightened today  because every young lady wants to be the first wife. 

This mentality is not helping our young girls at all. 

Marriage is about finding peace and so wherever you find peace and happiness, stay there and live out your Christian virtue. 

Monogamy has never offered a satisfying guarantee that a man or woman will be happy in marriage. There are happy people in monogamous unions and there are unhappy people there too.

Some monogamous unions are more turbulent than most polygamous unions.
There are happy people in polygamous unions too. Not everything is bad about polygamy as Africans have been conditioned to believe over the years
Honestly, it all narrows down to how partners live their lives and what they make of a marital union.

The worst is that we have been wired to think that those in polygamous unions will not make heaven. That is not true. The Bible never mentioned that anywhere.

Polygamy is not a sin but a choice.

Homosexualism is sinful yet those who brought us the religion want us to embrace it. 

I think our young ladies are being deprived of getting married in their youth by our hard, biased stand on polygamy.

If you find yourself in a polygamous marriage, don't condemn yourself. Don't detest yourself for God has not condemned you. Only your pastors and Church dogmas are condemning you, not your God. 
Love your children. Love your husband.
Love your co-wives and bring God's love and kingdom into that family.

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