What Men and Women Want in a Relationship Wants

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 Women prefer successful men to loyal men; men prefer loyal women to successful women. 

( As inspired by Stephen Wise )


This is a beautiful irony. This is why, despite your handsome look and unflinching loyalty, you still get dumped easily by your girlfriend the moment she sees a successful man. This is why, too, despite your beauty, money and influence, you still get dumped by your boyfriend once he finds a loyal, humble lady. Everyone is in search of different levels of satisfaction in different indeterminate ways


However, a man who is both successful and loyal is the ideal choice; a woman who is both successful and loyal is wonderful but these may be available only in heaven, not on earth; not in Africa, never in Nigeria.


We are a complex expression of an insatiable specie of higher animals but we are constrained by the limit of our choices!


My advice:


 It is not enough to be humble and loyal as a man, be successful too. It is not enough to be successful as a woman, be humble and loyal too.


Happy Pentecost Sunday!


© Ogiri John Ogiri.


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