Love is a Necessary Evil

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 Ogiri John Ogiri

The weakest point in a every man is love; she can strip the mighty king of his power and make him a slave. Yet the strongest point in a man is love; she can make the weakest into a powerful man of valour and influence; she can transform an ugly soul into a beautiful being, whole and complete in kindness.Indeed, love is a necessary evil we must become and give to others.

 It is a necessary dilemma. Either way, we get to drink from her many fountains of bitterness and sweetness. She gives us no straight choice to live without facing the task of unraveling her many puzzles. Her mystery is dreaded yet adored by the mighty and the lowly alike. 

Whenever, we are stung by her poisonous venom, we curse the day she was created as she leaves a sour taste in our mouths and the deafening sound of her silence in the tremulous agony of our heart, gives no succour to the house in which she once sojourned, wined and dined.


 But whenever, we drink from the well of her kindness, we bless her creator in the most purest gratitude of heart. We court her attention, yearning for the beautiful silence of her loudest melody to soothe our souls day and night. 


Love is an economy subject to the law of diminishing marginal utility; as more of her is consumed, total utility increases but with a diminishing marginal utility. We need enough but despise her being too adequate and available. We love her from a distance but hate her when she is close and becomes more than enough. We hate to love her and love to hate her.


It is one of the most difficult subjects to conceptualize and understand; one of the most enigmatic emotions to grasp and contain. Yet that is the beauty of her nature. Love we must express, give and take. Love anyway for love is, indeed, a necessary evil.


© Ogiri John Ogiri.


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