The Need to Protect Our Secrets from Others.

By Ogiri John Ogiri.

 How often do you tell your trusted someone your secrets and how often does he or she betray you? Yes, oftentimes, we trust people too soon after being with them for a while. We tell our friends and relatives many things about us that ordinarily ought to have been kept inside us. We do this because we feel they may be able to understand us and support us in order to heal or recover our lost self. After all, the desire to be honest with our significant others is alive in us. So we feel honesty-bound to be true and open with every thing about us.  But, instead of gaining their kind understanding and empathy when we share our secret fears, concerns and deeds with them,  what do we get in return?  Betrayal, mockery and unkind judgements. In the end, we become painfully disappointed with them.

The truth is, nobody deserves access to your most treasured secrets unless you want publicity. The only way a secret will remain a secret between two persons is if one of them is dead. As long as the two live, every secret is a public knowledge hidden in a public library.  

Therefore, protect your secret. If you must divulge it, then document it in a book. But you can equally save it in your stomach where your tongue will never be able to access it.

The adage that " a problem shared is a problem half-solved" does not always apply to all situations. In fact, with some people, some problems are better left unshared.  

It holds true that our greatest enemies are not those enemies of ours who exploit our revealed secrets and use them against us to their advantage; our real enemies are our friends and relatives who expose our secrets to others at the slightest opportunity.

Be careful with your secret when you are with people.

© Ogiri John Ogiri.