Marriage is not an End in Itself

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By Ogiri John Ogiri.
It appears that the most important purpose for which many ladies exist today and to which they aspire is to get married and have children. They don't even realize that getting married and having kids is not enough and that life's purposes extend beyond this end. If you have no ambition beyond getting married and having children, you soon discover that even in marriage, life is a boring adventure without ambitions. Having an ambition provides some kind of emotional lubricant needed to oil the wheel of marital bliss, for without an ambition, life in marriage tends to become vulnerable to frictions that eventually lead to wear and tear of the fractional parts that make up the marriage structure.

As a young lady, when you were in the university, polytechnic or college, you had many dreams of learning a skill, starting a business and growing it, getting a job and rising through the ranks to the top, furthering your studies, participating in active politics and many more. Ask yourself, what happened? Have you been able to achieve any? Today, these dreams have been emasculated or swallowed by marriage so that instead of marriage becoming a means, it becomes the end. Those lofty dreams of yours have died in marriage. This shouldn't be the case. Marriage shouldn't deny you the chance to pursue your dreams; it should help you to pursue and achieve your dreams.

 Dear young ladies, do you have a dream? chase your dream. Have an ambition beyond marriage; discover and maximize your potential; fulfil your life's purpose. Marriage is not, and should not be, the end; it is, and should be, a means to an end.
This is a way to self-fulfilment and happiness in life.
© Ogiri John Ogiri.

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